9 communication tips to open your child’s heart
When you communicate with your child, do you often feel that you are concerned about the child, but he does not appreciate it; you want to say something good, but you find that the child is absent . Actually, the child is selective in communicating with his parentsIf you do not rely on your child’s growth to choose a suitable communication method, it will be difficult for you to open up your child’s heart.
Personality changes with children’s growth. Children are selective in receiving education, not all of them are correct, and the educational content that should be implemented will be accepted by him.
Children only accept content and methods that they are willing to accept.
Let’s take a look at many cases of poor communication between parents and children. One common feature is that when the child is growing up, when parents talk to him, they often start from what angle they should say to the child., And rarely think about how to say that children accept.
It is often violated that children at different ages, knowledge capacity, psychological characteristics, life experience and social background are undergoing huge changes, and they are in a dynamic process that is increasingly developing.
If the content and method of parents speaking to their children cannot be consistent with the changes of the children, the result can only be that the parents’ words are becoming more and more incomprehensible or incomprehensible.
Try 9 Communication Tips1.
Turn yourself into a child, walk into his world, and be one with him.
Get close to your child and learn about his thoughts, preferences, and needs from his language and behavior.
Pay attention to your child’s reaction and attitude.
When talking to the child, listen carefully to his words and understand his thoughts and positions.
Experience how your child feels.
When the child is aggrieved outside and separated from a good friend or beloved pet, the parents just tell him “It’s okay, be strong, it’s nothing to be sad”, and make the child feel that the parents can’t feel his feeling at all.
If parents can treat their children with compassion and understanding, and give family solace in a timely manner, it will have a completely different effect.
Understand the child’s development, do not say everything he cannot understand, or put forward requirements that he cannot meet, making him feel stressed and always frustrated.
Answer the child’s question carefully.
When a child asks a question, he should first understand what it really means and answer the child’s needs.
For example, the child asks, “Mom, do you want to go shopping?”
The real meaning of this question may be: Mom, I want to go shopping with you.
If you know the true purpose of your child, you can say: Yes!
Would you like to go together?
The child must be very happy when he hears it.
Avoid negative tone like commands.
Such as “I command you .”, “I warn you .”, “You better hurry .”, “You are so stupid”, “You are too disappointed”, etc. with commands, orders, warnings, blame, To reject the tone of gravity.
Frequently change fresh topics to arouse children’s interest.
Example: Let me guess what happened to you today?
If one day, astronauts really come to the earth and other topics, I believe it will be better than “How are you today?”
Happy or not?
“More attractive to children.
Enrich your child’s life experience.
The situation of parent-child dialogue often comes from life. Parents can engage in children to observe various things around them, such as flowers and plants, trees, colors, shapes, brands, dresses of pedestrians on the street, talking content, department store windows .Can become a personal material.